Showing posts with label how to be a lady. Show all posts
Showing posts with label how to be a lady. Show all posts

Sunday, May 13, 2012

dear mom,

Thank you for letting me hang out in your tummy for nine months.
 Thank you specifically for having me on such a lovely island.

People think I'm puerto rican, and even though its not really true,
I still enjoy it. 


Mom and Naomi 2012 
{She still looks like a hot (grand) mama to me...}

Thank you for your loving kindness to me 
and my siblings for the past thirty plus years. 

Thank you for bribing me to go to church when I was a kid.

Much thanks for teaching me how to be strong, ambitious
 and just independent enough to not be too boy-crazy. 

Thank you for teaching me how to be a lady by example. 





Thank you for showing me how to do my laundry, 
keep a tidy home, and follow recipes. 

Thank you for showing me how to buy crafts that look homemade. 


Thank you for taking me and my sister to europe while we were still in a really obnoxious age. 


Thank you for putting up with us kids during those long camping trips
 full of stinky feet, hungry tummys, and whiney mouths. 






Thank you for teaching me and mel how to come up with fun songs and inside jokes.

Thank you for not disowning me in general during my annoying teenage years. 


Many thanks to you (and dad) for showing me what real love looks like. 


Thanks for showing us that you can be blissfully happy without marble halls or palaces (as Anne of Green Gables would say...).
Um- Thank you SO much for introducing me to Anne of Green Gables
 (and all of the works by C.S. Lewis while we're on topic).


 I guess I'm saying thanks for teaching me how to read...


Thank you for teaching me that adventure never ends unless you let it. 
Thank you for teaching me that it is possible to be crazy skinny and attractive after five kids.


Thanks Mom (and Dad) for showing me that
you can always find a reason to be grateful 
(and often a reason to laugh). 

Thanks for sticking together through the ups and the downs,
and always making sure that we knew that you both loved us mucho. 


Thanks for the video chats, the phone calls,
 and the visits to and from home. 


Thanks for always making me laugh,
even when all I really want to do is to cry.

Thanks for showing me what things matter most. 



I owe you big time, Mom.
You're the best.

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Sunday, May 6, 2012

about love.

Hi, friends. 
Goodness, it's been an exhausting couple of days.


You know after finals how your body crashes? 
Mine has been on crash mode for what has seemed like an eternity.

  
This weekend I photographed the most lovely wedding, and as Gid and I drove up the beautiful idaho highway, I couldn't help but be grateful for him. Grateful for his support through the last year of school, grateful for his wise cracks when I'm feeling sorry for myself, and above all- grateful for his open arms ready and happy to take me in at any moment.


Gid had informed me that we'd be staying at a local motel the night before the wedding, and as we drove into the city, I looked it up on my iphone (he seemed to not really be sure where we were- so I was tryyying to help). I told him exactly the direction we needed to go, and even showed him the gps, but he wasn't showing much interest.


Finally he pulled into the driveway of the sweetest little bed and breakfast I'd ever seen. The sun was setting and cast this perfect  inviting glow on the lovely cottage. Gid smiled his warm smile, and I immediately knew that he'd made a surprise reservation.



I asked him what the occasion was (we don't usually stay at fancy places- especially if we're there for someone else), and his simple response was that we needed something special; a treat for finishing the first year of graduate school in one piece. (Barely.)




How I love him.

We had the most lovely stay. In fact, we had the place to ourselves. Terrific luck- the place was completely booked the night before and the night after- but the one night we stayed- it was just us.


 (the first course of our breakfast-- I didn't get a picture of the next one because I gobbled it up as fast as possible...)


Just what I needed after a crazy semester and right before a wedding job.


Often during weekends like these memories of my own wedding come sweeping in. As I photograph a beautiful bride getting ready, somehow I get transported back to the morning of my own wedding-- the present me staring (still holding a camera) at a younger version of myself applying mascara years ago on my wedding day. 


Goodness, how nervous I was.
I remember shaking. 
Being nauseous. 

Terrified and dreadfully excited all together.

As scared as I was to get married, loosing gideon was simply not an option. I'd decided I never wanted to say goodbye to him, and my mind was absolutely made. Thank goodness I snagged him when I did.


I was thinking about something while I photographed this wedding, friends. You know how sometimes when spouses get into fights something you often hear is, "he's just not the man I married..." or "I've fallen out of love with him..."?


As I look at Gid- I'm noticing more and more he's not quite the man I married. There are subtle differences that have developed over the last 2 1/2 years.


More tenderness in his eyes. 
Longer hugs. An incredible ability to listen, and to understand.


Also- He's gotten significantly funnier.
Oh- and I think he's gotten foxier.

I'm not sure the man I married would have booked the sweetest little bed and breakfast in idaho last minute just as a special treat. (Or would he have?)

I guess what I'm saying is that I love my husband more and more every day. 
Which means I'm not the girl he married either. 


At least I hope not. 
I hope I'm gaining the same qualities and characteristics he is.


Falling in love with him more and more every day.


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Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Audrey...



Hepburn, that is.

I'm sure it was not expected that after my dear husband, Audrey Hepburn would be on my list of those who inspire me. I tried really hard not to add her, because I'm trying to stick to people who are close friends and family, but I simply couldn't resist. Since I'm trying choose my inspiring people randomly, I'll probably have to extend my list a bit due to this post.

When I was a little girl, I didn't really care for dresses. I thought make up was disgusting, and rather silly. I never wanted to wear heels. My mother would constantly encourage me to be a lady. "Alyssa! Cross those legs! Would a lady sit like that?" My mother couldn't have been a better example of how a lady acts, but I cared too little about prettiness to notice or appreciate it.

When I was around 7 years old, Audrey Hepburn caught my attention. I don't remember the first time I saw one of her movies, but I do remember the first time I saw this photograph of her:


I just loved her from that moment on.
And I wanted to be just like her.


Many of the films audrey stared shared similar storylines, and character descriptions.
Normally, I hate predictable. But for some reason, I don't seem to mind Audrey's films at all.

My favorite audrey hepburn films are as follows:

 #1- roman holiday


People think this movie is just about a European princess who falls in love with an American reporter,
but it's so much more. It is the story of a girl who grows up through the experience of running away, and spending the day with someone who (she thinks) doesn't see her as a princess and all of the responsibilities that are included with the title. It's a film about dreams, growth, maturity, and the sacrifices that are inevitable with responsibility. It's always been a favorite of mine.


#2- sabrina
You might recognise this movie from it's remake filmed in the 90s. It's pretty good, but not as good as the original. I love this story; it's about a girl who finds that what she always thought she wanted can change. After I watched this movie, I had a terrible ache to move to europe and find myself.

#3- love in the afternoon
Another favorite.  This story involves the daughter of a detective; a cellist who is intrigued by her father's work. She, through a whirl of events, saves a man from being murdered and falls in love with him. I have a love/hate relationship with this film, because I feel Audrey's character is too pure and innocent and, well, too good, for the man she ends up with. However, I love that she brings out the best in him, and makes a man with absolutely zero commitment capacity fall head over heels for her: a simple, lovely girl.

There are, of course, countless other Hepburn films that I could summarise in great detail, but it's not only Audrey's movies that inspire me. I love her life's story. To keep myself from writing into the eternities, I'll limit myself to the top 5 reasons I love Audrey.


1. Audrey originally wanted to be a dancer. 
I think this makes me feel like I have some sort of invisible connection to her.
She went to school at a very young age to study ballet.

When dancing wasn't working out for her, Audrey took advantage of the offer to play a leading role in a play. It was the beginning of a legacy. I love that she was brave enough to dream and believe in herself. It inspires me to do the same for myself.

2. Audrey was terribly humble.
She felt much too tall, and would try to compensate for it by always wearing flat shoes, though she would 'longingly stare at women who could wear heeled shoes and still be shorter than their male company".

“I am not beautiful. My mother once called me an ugly duckling. But, listed separately, I have a few good features.” 

“There must be something wrong with those people who think I doesn’t perspire, hiccup or sneeze, because they know that’s not true. I n fact, I hiccup more than most.” 
-Audrey Hepburn



3. Audrey didn't try to hide her mistakes. 
She learned from them, and continued to live gracefully.

Audrey was far from perfect. I know that my writing a novel on her sounds like I worship the ground she walks on, but in many ways I feel like she's an example of how to elegantly learn from difficult situations, and irreversible mistakes. There were several times that Audrey made mistakes that she openly regretted, but she always handled them in the most ladylike manner, and then made quite an effort to correct the problem.

If my world were to cave in tomorrow, I would look back on all the pleasures, excitements and worthwhilenesses I have been lucky enough to have had. Not the sadness, not my miscarriages or my father leaving home, but the joy of everything else. It will have been enough.


For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.

-- Audrey Hepburn




4. Audrey gave back. 

When I think of a timeless, lovely movie icon, I used to think of pearls, 
diamonds, and false eyelashes.
...now I think of jeans, a powederless face, and eyes of determination.

After her children were grown, Audrey spent a great deal of time with UNICEF giving back to countries suffering from different diseases and poverty situations. Photographers said that she would request not to be photographed, because she wanted to be there fully to help and not for any kind of publicity towards herself.

5. Audrey loved living life to the fullest, 

and had a firm desire to be a mother.




Audrey actually called off an engagement when she learned her then fiance wasn't planning on having children. Her number one desire in life was to be a mother. Have you noticed after she had her first son she sort of disappeared from the big screen? It certainly wasn't because the opportunities went away. 

She wanted to be with her family. 

I decided, very early on, just to accept life unconditionally; I never expected it to do anything special for me, yet I seemed to accomplish far more than I had ever hoped. Most of the time it just happened to me without my ever seeking it. 

"If I get married, I want to be very married. "

"I may not always be offered work, but I'll always have my family."




I know I'm not the only person in the world who has dedicated a simple blog post to Audrey Hepburn. But she inspires me. Not only to try to behave as I feel a true lady would, but to be a better person; more full of life, and especially more full of love. 

I hope someday I can be the example Audrey has been to me for someone else.